On Becoming a Mother

Holidays can be tough.  While they are a time of celebration and relaxation, I always ponder about those whose hearts are hurting because of the holiday.  People who are missing their deceased mother, children separated from their mother, and those longing for a child.  Certainly, being infertile has made me extremely sensitive to both Mother's and Father's Day.  As I sat in church today looking at the people around me, I couldn't help wonder if any of these people were longing for a child and that sitting in church hearing the special mother's blessing and the intentions for all mothers brought on that physical ache...the one the feels like a giant hole that is collapsing in slow motion.  If I didn't see a child with a woman, I did not say, "Happy Mother's Day."  I have been there.  I have felt that pain.  I have felt excluded from "the club" and it emphasized all the private insecurities I had. 

All of this reminded me how extraordinarily grateful I am for being allowed the opportunity to be a mother.  And while our son is biologically ours, I am reminded of all the ways that we can be "moms."  In my  mind, a mom doesn't have to be a biological influence...consider all those incredible parents out their who have given little ones, and not so little ones, loving homes through fostering or adoption.  But we can also be moms through other channels.  Because to me, a mom is more than someone who has a child in her home.  A mom is:

• any woman whose heart desires a child
• any woman who guides a friend or loved one through her grace and compassion
• any woman who lovingly opens her home and heart to those in need
• any woman who has miscarried a child
• any woman who has suffered the loss of a child
• any woman who cares for pets like members of the family
• any woman who has longs to be called "Mom"
• any woman who teaches others to be better human beings

We are women, we are sisters, we are moms.  Happy  Mother's Day.

To my blog friends who are dealing with primary infertility, please know that my heart is truly heavy for you on a difficult day such as this.  I pray that you will be blessed with the life you desire. 

Comments

[Stacey]

THANK YOU for this beautiful and gracious post. You are one of the special women I wish to honor this Mother's Day! Thank you so much for your heart that cares for others who might be hurting. I hope you enjoyed a great day with your family.

I'm still hoping that your tests will soon show levels all back to normal.